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Shame in ABDL – How to overcome it!

One of the biggest things that gets in the way of fully enjoying your diapers is your own mind. I talk to many people who know that the ABDL lifestyle is part of them, but who struggle to fully accept it. There can be negative feelings – of shame, uncertainty or embarrassment. However – all of these feelings are just feelings – and you can overcome them. There are a few thoughts that may help you overcome shame when you pursue your ABDL lifestyle.

Everyone has something that gives them comfort.

What that thing is varies from person to person. However everyone has a basic right to enjoy their life and have hobbies. You have a right to enjoy your ABDL lifestyle. As long as you are not hurting anyone, there is nothing wrong with finding comfort in diapers or regression. Looking for comfort and relaxation is part of being human. That’s nothing to be ashamed about!

Everyone has parts of themselves outside of social rules.

Social rules are just ideas that a large group of people have agreed to. And social rules are different in different countries. If you talk to most people about what they’re interested in, everyone has something they know would be considered a little weird. You’re not alone here, everyone is somewhat outside of social rules. There is no shame in being an adult baby or a diaper lover!

Everyone is different!

Maybe not everyone will understand your ABDL lifestyle, but they don’t have to. Everyone has their own lifestyles, including lifestyle you wouldn’t understand. Just because it might seem weird to someone else doesn’t mean it is bad. Remember – you don’t need to have everyone’s approval to enjoy your life. All that matters is that you are enjoying your own life, with all it’s happy moments.

The more you accept the things you like, the more you can enjoy them. Shame and secrecy can make your ABDL lifestyle feel restrained. As you overcome the negative feelings, nurture yourself. Allow yourself to really enjoy the feelings you get from diapers and ABDL activities.

If you want to feel more positive feelings about yourself, you can purchase my Diaper Reassurance file. In this new recording, my voice guides you into feelings of comfort and relaxation. Once in a peaceful state, I weed out any feelings of shame or uncertainty and reassure you that there is a place for diapers in your life.

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Love your ABDL self: Don’t Binge and Purge

A common problem in the ABDL lifestyle is binging and purging. You go from jumping into the ABDL life to wanting to leave it. Plunging into something new, even if it’s something you like can be a shock. Diapers and baby items can bring out feelings of shame and anxiety because the ABDL life is still seen as fringe. However, that doesn’t mean this lifestyle can’t give you comfort and joy. I sometimes see advice for adult babies and littles claim drop everything and commit to this lifestyle. As a mommy, don’t support that. Nurture the changes that you see in yourself but don’t force them!

Take Baby Steps 

(Pun intended). If you’re just starting out in the lifestyle, start small. Get a comfort object- a pacifier or blankie, and start using it. Try things out one step at a time and see how it affects you. Remember there’s no rush to plunge into being an adult baby full time. If you take on too many habits too fast, you might start pushing it away. Too much change happening fast can exhaust anyone. The shock of plunging yourself into an ABDL lifestyle will not be in your favor, trust me. For instance, before deciding to become diaper dependent, try to wear diapers for one day during the week and work up to it slowly. Let your mind adjust and accept the things you are doing. If it feels like too much, take a break.

Box Your Baby Things, Don’t Throw Them Out 

The ABDL lifestyle comes in varying degrees. Some people live in diapers 24/7 and others only drop into little-space sometimes. There can be times when you have dry spells when you just aren’t feeling into it. This is perfectly normal – humans are never in a constant mental state. These dry spells are the times that babies and littles want to “purge” their habits by throwing away their diapers, toys and comfort items. During these times, instead of throwing them out, put them in a box for later. Remember:  even though you aren’t feeling drawn to these items now, you may want them later. Put the box away and if you still don’t want these things in 6 months, then throw them out. Break from the cycle of bingeing and purging.

Remember Why You’re ABDL 

If you find yourself getting into bouts of shame or uncertainty, remind yourself of all the things you enjoy in the ABDL lifestyle. There may be times when you feel shame or even rejection of the things you like, but remember you aren’t hurting anyone by liking what you like. Everyone has things that bring them comfort, and this is yours. It may help to keep a journal for yourself.  When you have a nice experience getting into little space or regressing, write about it. Describe the positive feelings you have for your ABDL activities, and later on when you’re feeling uncertainty, you can read through your thoughts. You’ll remember all the good things that come with being in the ABDL lifestyle.

Remember, everyone is on their own path and everyone has a right to enjoy it. Enjoy your ABDL self!